Co-parenting

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Under co-parenting or co-parenting (composed of the Latin prefix co = together and the English word parenting = parenthood ) is defined as a post-modern form of family formation, to adults get together specifically in order to bear witness (usually without sex) child and then raise them in close coordination with the division of labor, with the parents usually living in separate households. The idea is to enable people to raise their own child who can get along with the other parent on a permanent basis, but not in a partnershipwant to live. Contact is usually made via relevant websites. Some women report that it is difficult to find a suitable male partner here too.

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Co-parenting describes the way parents cooperate in their roles. The term describes the supportive alliance between adults in bringing up the child. One of the most important researchers in the field, Mark Feinberg of Pennsylvania State University, formulated four basic components of co-parenting:

  1. Support vs. Infiltration of the parenting role of the other,
  2. Match vs. Differences in raising children,
  3. Distribution of daily tasks and responsibilities,
  4. Conflict management and coalition building.

The idea of ​​co-parenting is based on the scientific knowledge that the relationship between parents determines the parent-child relationship and thus has an influence on the child's development. Conflicts in partnerships due to discrepancies in ideas about how children should be brought up or how the roles of the parents should look like have a direct influence on the child's psychological development. The development of a healthy relationship between parent and child forms the basis for basic trust, inner security, attention and learning. These aspects, in turn, are the basis for the child's development of a later identity and for developing the ability to pursue one's own goals. These are also the bases for the later ability to have relationships and love.

According to a broad definition, a co-parenting relationship exists when at least two individuals assume responsibility for the well-being of a child by mutual agreement or through social norms. With this definition, it is possible to describe co-parenting as a dimension in married, never-married and divorced couples, regardless of their sexual orientation and whether the child is biologically related to their parents (e.g. adoption).

The understanding of co-parenting as a dimension of parenting that is independent of the quality of marriage emerged in the USA in the 1960s and is increasingly being accepted by science in Europe as well.

In the Netherlands, a bill was discussed that would allow up to four people to share custody of a child. A family of four people, a gay and a lesbian couple, who care for their son together on the basis of a formal agreement has become known in this context, although in this case only two of the parents have official custody due to the lack of a law.

Familyship

The Internet portal Familyship received an award in the Social Entrepreneur category in 2017 as part of the Germany - Land of Ideas initiative and is assessed as an example of the social institution of co-parenting and its increasing importance.

literature

  • Mark Feinberg, E. Mavis Hetherington: Differential parenting as a within-family variable. In: Journal of Family Psychology. Volume 15, No. 1, 2001, pp. 22-37, doi: 10.1037 / 0893-3200.15.1.22
  • Elizabeth Thayer and Jeffrey Zimmerman: The Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict After a Difficult Divorce. New Harbinger Pubn, 2001, ISBN 978-1-57224-245-6

Web links

Individual evidence

  1. ^ Co-parenting as a new family model - father, mother, mother, child. Accessed December 10, 2018 (German).
  2. ↑ Jenny Becker: Raising together alone . In: The time . January 5, 2017 ( online ).
  3. ↑ Sonja Hartwig: Desire for children: "People say to me: No children? Then you really didn't want it!" In: The time. February 2, 2017. Retrieved February 26, 2017 .
  4. ↑ Mark E. Feinberg: coparenting and the Transition to Parenthood: A Framework for Prevention . In: Clinical child and family psychology review . tape 5 , no. 3 , September 1, 2002, ISSN  1096-4037 , p. 173-195 , PMID 12240706 , PMC 3161510 (free full text).
  5. ↑ Laurie A. Van Egeren, Dyane P. Hawkins: Coming to Terms with Coparenting: Implications of Definition and Measurement . In: Journal of Adult Development . tape 11 , no. 3 , ISSN  1068-0667 , p. 165–178 , doi : 10.1023 / B: JADE.0000035625.74672.0b ( springer.com [accessed February 12, 2017]).
  6. ↑ James P. McHale, Regina Kuersten-Hogan: Introduction: The Dynamics of Raising Children Together . In: Journal of Adult Development . tape 11 , no. 3 , ISSN  1068-0667 , p. 163–164 , doi : 10.1023 / B: JADE.0000035798.74058.ef ( springer.com [accessed February 12, 2017]).
  7. ↑ Medical University of Vienna: Preventive parenting education and support for parents-to-be works - and also helps the child | MedUni Vienna. Retrieved February 12, 2017 .
  8. ↑ Twee moeders, twee vaders: volgt nu ook de wet? (Two mothers, two fathers: does the law now also obey?). In: Nieuwsuur, Dutch Broadcasting Foundation. December 6, 2016, accessed February 26, 2017 .
  9. ↑ Familyship: Platform for starting a family & co-parenting. Accessed March 5, 2020 (German).
  10. ↑ Familyship - the new family model. Retrieved March 5, 2020 .
  11. ↑ Anja Sokolow: Futurologist: A partner for having children? Last chance internet . In: THE WORLD . April 2, 2016 ( welt.de [accessed March 5, 2020]).
  12. ↑ SWR2, SWR2: Double fathers and Three-parent babies. Retrieved March 5, 2020 .