Michael Cöllen

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Michael Cöllen (* 1944 in Colmar ) is a German psychologist , couple and sex therapist and non-fiction author for integrative couple therapy and couple synthesis.

Career

Cöllen studied psychology in Würzburg. He also received psychotherapeutic training in conversation, behavioral and gestalt psychotherapy (FPI), therapeutic training in sex therapy (G. Schmidt) and * advanced training with GR Bach (aggression therapy), M. Bosch (family therapy) and G. Leutz (psychodrama).

Cöllen was the head of marriage and family counseling at Caritas Hamburg until 1985 . This was followed by a job as a mentor in the training for marriage counselors on behalf of the German Bishops' Conference and as a department head at the Fritz Perls Institute for Gestalt Therapy . He also had teaching positions at the University of Applied Sciences and the University of Hamburg . He was co-author of the NDR television series "Ich und Du" for partner problems. Cöllen is head of training and further education at the German Society for Integrative Couples Therapy and Couples Synthesis, at the Osterberg Institute and at the Odenwald Institute of the Karl Kübel Foundation for Children and Family . Since 1975, he has been developing a therapeutic method for couples under the name of couples synthesis .

Pair synthesis

Pair model in pair synthesis
Couple cycles and susceptibility to crises

For his couple synthesis, Cöllen introduced the five work steps of couple form , partner becoming, couple dynamics, couple conflict analysis and couple formation. The aim is to try to combine the dimensions of depth psychology with the dialogue work and the spiritual search of a couple during couples therapy . Based on the development of a "culture of debate" in relationships, Cöllen is currently focusing on the subject of "forgiving in love".

Couple synthesis means in a comprehensive sense a psychological doctrine of relationships and love. In a narrower sense, it is a dynamic couples therapy concept which, from the synthesis of various classic therapy methods, can provide high effectiveness in the treatment and development of the ability to relate and love. The combination of psychology , therapeutic practice and spiritual learning can create a living model for partnership, love and eroticism . Inner soul, couple dynamic and environmentally relevant forces are connected in constant interaction to form a healing concept of action.

The couple synthesis places particular value on the experience of intimacy between the partners. In this context, intimacy is defined as the opening of inner boundaries to oneself towards one's partner. This takes place in a holistically understood dialogical exchange of body, mind and soul. Early childhood experiences with the most important caregivers for child development determine how and to what extent such an opening succeeds. Narcissistic insults and early injuries lead to a self-protection that corresponds to the original threat to the child's self. Crises and disturbances in the current love relationship often result from the unconscious activation of this self-protection that has been learned. The child's self-protection turns into defense and resistance to the partner. The couple's creative potential cannot develop.

Fonts (selection)

  • Let's fight for love Kösel, Munich 1984.
  • The couple. Kösel, Munich 1989.
  • Healing partnership. Rowohlt, Reinbek 1993.
  • Couple therapy and couple synthesis. Springer, Vienna 1997.
  • with Mathias Jung: Love in times of non-commitment - Eros and Ethos. Cross, Stuttgart 2002.
  • Love, quarrel and reconciliation - rules and rituals for couples. Kreuz, Stuttgart 2003.
  • Love your partner like yourself - ways for couples out of narcissistic crises. Gütersloh publishing house, 2005.
  • Couple therapy and couple synthesis in Gestalt therapy. In: L. Hartmann-Kottek: Gestalt therapy. Springer, Berlin 2008.
  • Forgiveness in love. How couples find new closeness. Cross, Freiburg 2009.
  • Integrative couples therapy. Psychotherapy Verlag, Tübingen 2013.
  • Everyday paradise - couples shape the happiness of their love. Cross, Freiburg 2014.
  • Love despite a lack of time. Herder, Freiburg 2019.

Web links

Individual evidence

  1. ↑ Stumm / Pritz (Ed.): Dictionary of Psychotherapy . Springer, Vienna 2000, ISBN 3-211-83248-3 .
  2. ^ M. Cöllen: Couple therapy and couple synthesis in gestalt therapy. In: L. Hartmann-Kottek: Gestalt therapy . Springer, Berlin 2008, ISBN 978-3-540-75743-6 .
  3. ↑ M. Cöllen: The therapy of love according to the process of couple synthesis . In: SKD Sulz, (Ed.): Paartherapien. CIP-Medien, Munich 2000, p. 254, ISBN 3-932096-06-1 .
  4. ↑ M. Cöllen, U. Holm, U. Röser: Thoughts on the development of a culture of dispute (PDF; 282 kB) . In: Wolfgang Eirund, Joachim Heil (Ed.): International Journal for Philosophy and Psychosomatics 2/2011, ISSN  1869-6880 .
  5. ↑ M. Cöllen: Forgiveness in love . Kreuz-Verlag, Freiburg 2009, ISBN 978-3-7831-3150-5 .
  6. ↑ B. Röser: Healing and shaping intimate relationships. In: Gestalt therapy forum for Gestalt perspectives. EHP-Verlag, 2/2009, pp. 134-145
  7. ↑ J. Bowlby: A secure base clinical applications of attachment theory. Taylor & Francis Ltd., 1988, ISBN 978-0-415-00640-8 .
  8. ↑ M. Cöllen: Love your partner like yourself. Gütersloher Verlagshaus, 2005, ISBN 978-3-579-06509-0 .
personal data
SURNAME Cöllen, Michael
BRIEF DESCRIPTION German psychologist, psychotherapist and book author
DATE OF BIRTH 1944
PLACE OF BIRTH Colmar