Safeword
The safeword is a signal word used in practices in the field of BDSM with which the receiving partner can indicate that he does not want to continue the action. In the context of mutually agreed practices, a pronounced safeword (also for legal reasons) is considered an unconditional obligation to stop immediately. The efficient and trustful handling of safewords is one of the absolutely necessary requirements for BDSM.
species
A distinction is made between two types of safewords: The first safeword is agreed between the partners and is intended to reduce the intensity of the action currently being carried out (“slow word”), while the second safeword should result in the entire session being terminated.
Terms are usually used as safewords that appear strange and conspicuous in the sometimes ritualized interaction, in order to give a more reliable “stop” signal. Mayday is very common as a second safeword . Originally this probably comes from the French "M'aidez!" ("Help me!"). As a non-verbal abort code, a three-time knocking (repeated if necessary) is often agreed, as is common in various martial arts. Often the “traffic light” is also used as a “safeword”: green = everything okay / yellow = caution, no stronger or further / red = STOP, stop!
Other agreements, such as graduated hand sign combinations, are also possible depending on the situation. Simultaneously gagging your mouth and bandaging your eyes is not recommended, as hand signals can easily be overlooked, especially during a session, and eye contact is therefore generally recommended. In addition, there are also okay codes , the absence of which would lead to the game being stopped immediately. Examples of this can include direct eye contact or crossing your arms behind your head . Such gestures are of vital importance, especially in games that take place underwater .
literature
- Matthias TJ Grimme : The SM manual. Charon-Verlag 2002, ISBN 3-931406-01-6 . (A more technical manual focusing on explaining practices and safety notices)
- Jay Wiseman : SM 101: A Realistic Introduction. Greenery Press (CA), 1998, ISBN 0-9639763-8-9 .
- Phillip Miller, Molly Devon, William A. Granzig (preface): Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism. Mystic Rose Books, 1995, ISBN 0-9645960-0-8 .
- Dossie Easton , Janet W. Hardy: The New Topping Book. Greenery Press (CA), 2002, ISBN 1-890159-36-0 .
- Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy: The New Bottoming Book. Greenery Press (CA), 1998, ISBN 1-890159-35-2 .
Web links
- Introduction to the use of security codes in case of data strike
Individual evidence
- ↑ a b Matthias TJ Grimme : The bondage manual. Charon-Verlag, 2005, ISBN 3-931406-16-4 , p. 76.
- ^ Matthias TJ Grimme : The bondage manual. Charon-Verlag, 2005, ISBN 3-931406-16-4 , p. 77.