Dirty talk

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Dirty Talk (dt .: Dirty talk ) or dirty talk is a sexual practice and refers to the use of eroticized or very vivid and direct words before or during sexual intercourse to increase sexual stimulation.

language

For many people, language has a direct effect on their level of sexual arousal. While some people prefer a rather gentle and tender language ( nicknames , "love whispers") during sexual intercourse, others achieve a higher degree of arousal through a very direct, sometimes aggressive form of communication. The voice , timbre and tone of voice play an important role in dirty talk. Depending on the context, one and the same word can have a wide variety of meanings, depending on whether words z. B. pointed, panting, seemingly uninvolved, strict, smiling, cuddly or breathily used. On the other hand, the unspoken can also create erotic tension, and too much openness can appear dreary. Quietness in bed is very often due to shame . A survey conducted by the magazine " Lisa " showed that 36% of readers have difficulty talking to their partner about sexual desires and ideas and that 44% of readers use dirty talk.

partnership

This “enjoyment of the word” requires a trusting relationship between both partners, who ideally speak “the same” language so as not to hurt each other with words. Tender and intimate conversations often initiate a sexual act and are very important in a relationship. Dirty talk goes beyond talking, about (unspoken) desires or needs and includes talking itself in lovemaking. It often takes a lot of effort to integrate dirty talk into lovemaking. Beginners often feel silly using "piggy" words, and it takes practice to get over this uncertainty and discomfort. The aim of dirty talk is to enrich sex, to make it more uninhibited and to excite each other. So that both partners can enjoy dirty talk, they first slowly explore the partner's reactions. It is important that the vocabulary used in dirty talk does not hurt the partner and that it is adapted to the relationship between the two partners. A rough word at the wrong moment can quickly end the intimate atmosphere; one right word at the right time but work wonders. In order to stimulate the partner to maximum enjoyment through encouraging expressions, experienced men like to emphasize the individual advantages of women in dirty talk, whereas women like to give clear instructions, be amazed in superlatives and avoid diminutive forms . Vocabulary from hardcore porn or sex magazines can be inspiring, but it can also be turn-off . According to a survey, 94% of women consider dirty talk to be a way of getting their sex life going.

Words

The selection of erotic words is large, love partners can:

  • Make erotic vows of love
  • make ambiguous remarks
  • describe exactly what arouses them or what they are doing
  • Use simple stimulus words: "hard", "wet", "fuck" etc.
  • Name sexual organs with proper names
  • imitate a particular accent or dialect, e.g. B. French, Italian, Bavarian
  • Use scene language ( erotic role play )
  • find and use a common language based on certain words and accents (key words)
  • use poetic or imaginative expressions: "slurp the oyster"
  • Tell erotic stories or fantasies
  • bring in literary allusions and quotations
  • Use special vocabulary, whisper in your ear
  • Funny, frivolous , shameless, disreputable, wicked, hearty
  • Indecent, obscene , vulgar , animal names
  • Immoral , politically incorrect , fecal language
  • give each other commands: "Bend over", "Lie on your stomach!" or "Put your gun up!"
  • insulting each other : "bitch", "bitch", "pig"
  • humiliate and insult oneself as a variation of BDSM

With phone sex , cybersex ( netiquette ), SMS messages but also love letters , it is important to arouse the invisible partner with words without annoying or offending him.

Intimidation in connection with sexual harassment as a form of verbal abuse or emotional manipulation or a deliberately evoked embarrassment are not dirty talk (see also stalking ).

If the sexual experience is fixated on conversations with sexual content or listening to sexual texts, it can be a question of paraphilia .

See also

literature

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  1. ↑ The language course for bed fitforfun.de
  2. ↑ http://www.glamour.de/glamour/2/4/content/07053/index.php
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  5. ↑ http://www.netzeitung.de/vermischtes/780570.html