Self bondage

Self-bondage with handcuffs

Self-bondage or self-restraint is a sexual practice from the field of BDSM . The term describes the self-restraint of a person as a reinforcing measure in the context of an auto-erotic scenario or in the context of an erotic role-play with several participants.

Differentiation from partner-related bondage

Self-bondage is characterized by the joy of experimentation and the ingenuity of the user; self-bondage can be distinguished from conventional bondage in the following points:

• The risks are much higher due to the lack of protection from a partner.
• Mechanisms are needed which ensure a safe release after a certain period of time.
• Appropriate techniques and materials are needed to tie yourself up.

Risks of self-bondage

Self-bondage is associated with far higher risks than most other BDSM practices, as one of the basic elements of bondage in a partnership and of BDSM in general, the SSC , must inevitably be disregarded: not to leave a bound, helpless person unattended. Besides the usual risks of a bondage may arise, such as location-related pain or incising the bondage to joints can occur in self-bondage additional risks, such as when the hands are unexpectedly deaf by the bondage and the opportunity to free themselves as planned is no longer given.

An extreme risk is taken by people who also put on gags during self-bondage or use breathing control techniques to stimulate themselves autoerotically. It is precisely in this last-mentioned area that there are repeated deaths due to these so-called autoerotic accidents . In the United States of America, the number of fatal accidents is estimated at 500 to 1,000 per year; mainly from asphyxiation, often associated with substance abuse . The death of British politician Stephen Milligan in 1994 was a case of autoerotic asphyxiation in connection with self-bondage, there are also numerous forensic reports and newspapers in Germany occasionally report corresponding deaths.

Precautions

Regardless, many practitioners insist that self-bondage can be performed relatively safely if it is performed with prior consideration and consequent minimization of possible risks. Usual safety instructions include, for example, the complete avoidance of "strict" self-bondage approaches, the avoidance of any breathing-restricting techniques, the establishment of several release mechanisms in the event of failure of a mechanism, the avoidance of secondary risks (e.g. open fire) as well as long periods of time Duration of the self-bondage action and the initiation of another person who can intervene to help in an emergency.

approaches

Preparation of a strict self-bondage with leather straps and a special Lycra suit ( body bag )

In self-bondage, a distinction can be made between a strict and sensual approach ("strict or sensual"):

• The goal of sensual self-bondage is to create the feeling that you can only move to a limited extent; the exemption mechanisms are designed to be simple and straightforward, e.g. B. ropes are only loosely knotted or the keys for the locks used are within reach.

• In contrast, with strict self-bondage, no release mechanisms are provided before a certain period of time has elapsed, regardless of whether the practitioner wants to continue the scenario to the planned end or not. Although this form of self-bondage carries far higher risks, it is preferred by some practitioners because of the greater feeling of helplessness.

A connection between sensual and strict self-bondage is established when additional opportunities are set up to free oneself (so-called "ripcord"), that is, based on strict self-bondage, some additional liberation mechanisms are built in, which allow immediate liberation. However, the use of this emergency exit from self-bondage is designed in such a way that it entails a "penalty", for example the destruction of expensive professional equipment, the placement of the required release tool in a publicly visible place or the sinking of the spare key in a bucket Colour. In an emergency, the practitioner has the opportunity to free himself before the planned time has elapsed, but due to the expected consequences he will actually only use it in an emergency.

Liberation Mechanisms

In self-bondage there are a number of liberation mechanisms that differ in application, user-friendliness, accuracy of the period, costs and other features. In principle, several of the following mechanisms should always be used to increase security:

• Ice cubes : The use of ice is widespread as a release mechanism, for example filling a sock with ice, over which one slips a key ring and which is attached to a place inaccessible while tied. As the ice melts, the ring slides down until it finally falls to the ground, allowing release.

• Ice lock : The area that allows clearance (for example, a snap hook that connects two chains) is surrounded by ice and cannot be opened until the ice has melted. This option can be used to peg the person for a certain duration or e.g. B. to keep a certain bondage under tension for a certain time.

• Combination locks : There are two approaches to using combination locks , on the one hand based on the time it takes to find the combination, and on the other hand on the availability of light so that the correct combination can be entered.

• Unknown combination : The lock is reset to an unknown combination before the self-bondage is completed; the restrained person must then find the correct combination by trial and error.

Preparing for self-bondage with an ice lock

• Darkness : Even if the number is known, in many locks the combination can only be entered if you can see the rows of numbers. This liberation mechanism is based on the availability of light, either from the sunrise, for example, or from a lamp controlled by a timer .

• Electromagnets : Electromagnets can enable a release after a certain period of time, if this period is controlled electronically or via a computer, this allows very precise control over the desired period.

(It should be noted, however, that computers and related devices can unexpectedly malfunction! These in turn can, for example, delay or completely prevent the continuation of a program and thus the desired exemption. For this reason, a "Plan B" should always be considered pull.)

• Soldering iron : In conjunction with a timer, soldering irons can be used for liberation, for example to cut a nylon rope or to expose frozen keys.

• Post or parcel service : When sending keys by post or with a parcel service, an exemption is only possible after the letter or parcel has arrived.

There are also a number of mechanisms for quick rescue in an emergency:

• Paint bucket : A second key or tool is placed in a bucket with color ink or engine oil, the access in case of emergency can provide by spreading the liquid on furniture or carpets for a considerable damage.

• Unpleasant drink : An unpleasant liquid, such as urine, is stored in a container. The key is only released when the contents of the container are drunk, the solution is built up in such a way that the container cannot be emptied in any other way.

• The helping hand : A friend or relative is notified that he will check that everything is going well after a certain period of time, usually at a time when the bondage should actually be over. This person, also known as the “guardian angel”, may or may not be informed about the bondage, precisely this last aspect can make the liberation very shameful. Another variant is to place a phone in a place that can also be reached while tied up so that help can be requested by phone in an emergency.

Bondage Techniques

In addition to the necessary liberation mechanisms, the restraint itself is a general problem: While restraints can be carried out relatively easily by couples, they become considerably more complex for an individual.

In the context of self-bondage scenarios, materials are often used that can simply be closed, but not opened again without tools. These include handcuffs , leather cuffs, zip ties , chains and locks. Many of these materials pose a high risk of injury, for example cable ties and unsecured handcuffs can close further than planned, but other materials can either be put on incorrectly or slip and cause limbs to become numb.

The main problem with the use of ropes is the handcuffing of the hands in a way that does not make it easy to free them later. This is made possible by the use of certain nodes, e.g. B. a tension knot around the wrists. Liberation from such a bondage is not without risk, usually a knife or scissors is required, which must be used dangerously close to the arteries.

Professional material

Professional metal set

In self-bondage, inexpensive and, above all, easy-to-obtain material is predominantly used, resulting in an increased risk potential, since unsuitable materials are often used here, which would significantly increase the risk even in conventional bondage with a partner. Further risks arise from the “ do-it-yourself approach” of many practitioners, who often experiment with unsuitable material without contact with like-minded people. There are now a number of commercial and professional products available for practitioners, mainly made in the United States and England.

literature

• Stephan Dressler, Christoph Zink: Pschyrembel Dictionary Sexuality . Gruyter, 2003, ISBN 3-11-016965-7 , p. 475.
• Robert Hazelwood, Park Elliot Dietz: Autoerotic Fatalities . Lexington Books, 1983, ISBN 0-669-04716-3 .
• Jay Wiseman: Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook. 2nd ed. Greenery Press, 2000, ISBN 1-890159-13-1 .

Web links

Commons : Self-bondage  - album with pictures, videos and audio files

• Collection and references of autoerotic deaths Openmindmedia (English)
• Jonathan Peters: Notes on self-restraint . (English)
• Self-bondage techniques (English)

Individual evidence

1. ↑ Ayzad: BDSM. Castelvecchi, 2004, ISBN 88-7615-025-0 , pp. 244-246. (Italian)
2. ^ ^{A b} Robert Hazelwood, Park Elliot Dietz: Autoerotic Fatalities. Lexington Books, 1983, ISBN 0-669-04716-3 .
3. ↑ BBC News Online about the circumstances of death of Stephen Milligan (English)
4. ↑ cf. F. Minyard: Wrapped to death. Unusual autoerotic death. In: Am J Forensic Med Pathol. 1985 Jun; 6 (2), pp. 151-152.
5. ↑ cf. R. Thibault, JD Spencer; JW Bishop, NS Hibler: An unusual autoerotic death asphyxia with an abdominal ligature. In: J Forensic Sci. 1984 Apr; 29 (2), pp. 679-684.
6. ↑ ^{a b c d e} Mass Sadist: BDSM 4 Dummies. Lulu.com, 2006, ISBN 1-4303-0975-X , pp. 75-76.
7. ↑ Jay Wiseman: Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook. 2nd Ed., Greenery Press, 2000, ISBN 1-890159-13-1 , p. 68.
8. ↑ Jay Wiseman: SM 101: A Realistic Introduction. Greenery Press (CA), 1998, ISBN 0-9639763-8-9 .

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