Feminization (BDSM)
Under feminization is understood within the BDSM an erotic role-playing game , in which a man slips through dress and behavior in the role of a woman. It is a playful form of crossdressing . This type of role play, in which a different gender than one's own is assumed, is also referred to as gender play ( English gender : “social” or “psychological” gender of a person, play : game ). Feminization for medical reasons is called effemination .
Motives and Exercise
Feminization results from a personal inclination, for example an affinity for lingerie , or takes place in the context of a BDSM relationship and is a practice that is often mentioned in the literature. The duration of feminization can range from a limited period of e.g. B. range from a few hours to permanent feminization.
Clothing and fetish
The feminization often takes place hidden by, for example, the street clothes lingerie, stockings and suspenders are worn. Men who prefer to wear women's underwear are called women's lingerie wearers . Sometimes fetish clothing such as corsets , rubber or latex lingerie is another form of expression. The change to women's clothing and shoes, wearing make-up etc. can follow certain models. Often attempts are made to emulate the idea of the "real lady" in clothing and behavior, the motifs sought are often reminiscent of the 1950s and 1960s. Another variant is the sexualization of the female role model, for example through covered make-up, provocative clothing or high shoes. This can create powerful sexual stimuli for the wearer and his partner.
Assumption of the female gender role
In the case of permanent feminization, the feminized men often take over the housekeeping and the partner becomes the dominant part of the relationship. In these relationships, the topic of cuckold and chastity (see penis cage ) often plays a role, because often only through sexual emasculation does a full (but temporary) identification with the new role take place. Female behaviors are also practiced and adopted, a female name is used and an extreme caricature of femininity is often used for the external appearance, which triggers strong sexual arousal in both partners.
The female naming can be an important aspect for changing the gender role, the use of the (self-chosen) woman's name marks the transition from reality to role play. Within the game, the corresponding female terms are also used for the male genital organs. Passive anal intercourse, possibly with the help of a strapon , can be part of the assumed gender role and also be stimulating for both partners.
Forced feminization
Forced feminization takes place in BDSM between two consensual partners ( SSC ). The focus is on the one hand the mutual experience of submission, on the other hand sexually connoted humiliation and humiliation can also play an important role, especially when the public is involved. The process of forced feminization includes not only wearing clothes and make-up, which the dominant partner prescribes and selects, but also arranging gender-specific behaviors. Often clichéd and exaggerated images of women are taken as role models. For example, by appearing in public in extremely short skirts, high shoes and a heavily made-up face, a prostitute is to be imitated and the degradation of the feminized is thereby increased. In the English-speaking world, the term "Forced Feminization" is used, but it can also refer to real forced feminization, for example the rape of men in prisons. These real situations are also described as homosexual fantasies in the context of forced feminization in the relevant literature, while for heterosexual men they are rarely part of the feminization fantasies. Further synonyms are effeminization or demale .
Sometimes the submissive part even wants a further, sometimes even violent training on the desired role of the woman. In some circles and internet forums, for example, the fantasies of a "kidnapping abroad" and a "medical sex reassignment" are described. Castration fantasies also appear in this context in the erotic BDSM literature.
Role models
In addition to the image of the elegant and ladylike appearance and the rather slutty -looking slut , the maid is a very popular role model. The Victorian era with its distinctive hierarchical structures can serve as a model here . The element of status and the power structure associated with it (cf. Dominance and Submission , D / s ) is here combined with gender play . The man is conditioned to take on household tasks either voluntarily or as part of forced feminization. In the English-speaking scene in particular, this is often referred to as sissification , while this term is also used generally for feminization in other language areas.
By Sissy boys (Engl. Sissy = girl, sissy) occurs in BDSM (as opposed to homosexual use of the word) when the man very childlike and girlish clothes, for example, frilly panties, bonnets and petticoats carries, and is also presented in it. An important element besides the change of gender is the assumption of the role of a very young age ( Ageplay ). Clothing models can often be found in southern romanticism (for example historical children's clothing or crinolines ). If this happens against the will or in connection with punishment, one speaks of petticoating or pinaforing. An overlap with the role behavior of the adult baby can occur, but is not inevitable.
Artist's impression
Gene Bilbrew "Eneg" Eric Stanton and Bill Ward have released a number of illustrations and some comics about feminization. Nan Gilbert has dealt with it photographically, among other things, one of the few complete comics on the subject of forced feminization "Lady Lovelock" comes from Lou Kagan .
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- ↑ Buhrich, Neil / Beaumont, Trina, 1981, Comparison of transvestism in Australia and America / Published in: Archives of Sexual Behavior, Vol. 10, No. 3, 1981, pp. 269-279: Obtained questionnaire data on gender identity, sexual orientation, cross-dressing behavior, fetishism, and bondage from 136 American (mean age 49 yrs) and 86 Australian (mean age 38 yrs) self-designated transvestites who reported a period of fetishism to women's clothes at some stage of development. Characteristics of transvestism were similar: All were male; almost half first cross-dressed in prepuberty and were well-established by late adolescence; intense fetishism was usually experienced during adolescence but waned in later years; in almost a quarter of Ss fetishism ceased, although the desire to cross-dress continued; in many, transvestism was associated with fantasies of bondage, usually of Ss bound while cross-dressed; and sexual orientation was predominantly or exclusively heterosexual in most Ss.
- ↑ Thompson, Janet, 1951, Transvestism: an empirical study, published in: International Journal of Sexology, Vol. 4, 1951, pp. 216-219 "The author, a man 38 years old, has worn female clothes exclusively since age 31 years. (APA / PsycINFO)
- ↑ Bräutigam, Walter, 1958, On the phenomenology of erotic and sexual love and their perversions, published in: Nervenarzt, Vol. 29, 1958, pp. 53–59
literature
- Claudia Varrin: The Art of Female Dominance. A guide for beginners: Schwarzkopf & Schwarzkopf (March 2006), ISBN 3-89602-710-7
- Glynis Dunnit, Rüdiger Happ: Forced into the skirt. Marterpfahl Verlag (April 2001), ISBN 3-9806104-3-8
- Susan Stryker, Stephen Whittle: The Transgender Studies Reader, Routledge (June 2006) ISBN 0-415-94708-1
- Sue Wilkinson & Celia Kitzinger, Heterosexuality: A Feminism & Psychology Reader (pp. 150-168). London: Sage. ISBN 0-8039-8823-0
- Helen Boyd: My Husband Betty: Love, Sex and Life with a Crossdresser, Seal Press (December 2003), ISBN 1-56025-515-3