Hotel Mama is a colloquial ironic catchphrase for a parental home in which young adults - so-called “nestlingers” - continue to live or live again in their parents' household after the end of adolescence . The term refers to the traditional distribution of social roles , in which typical household chores such as cooking or cleaning are still assigned to the mother . The expression "nestling phenomenon" became known. The topic of nestling was the subject of a television series called Hotel Mama by Christos Yiannopoulos , which was broadcast by ZDF.
Extended living at home with the parents is a step towards independence as an adult.
In the case of young adults in Italy and Spain , this phenomenon would be referred to as “mammismo”, with 70% of unmarried Italian men over thirty living in their parents' household. Studies in France and Great Britain in particular also showed a clear trend. According to data from the Generations and Gender Survey 2008/09, nine countries examined in Europe show a gender and east-west divide. Georgia and Eastern European countries in particular have a higher proportion of so-called “nestlings” than Germany, France and the Netherlands. Austria , on the other hand, is in the middle. According to the Census Bureau , 2010 were Germany , especially young men 18 to 24 living at 71% with their parents, female peers, however, only about 57%. In 2000, 65% of young adults would still have lived with their parents, so their proportion remained almost constant, but had increased before then. According to Manfred Günther, what is common in Italy is experiencing a "renaissance" in Germany. In countries like Italy there is neither housing benefit nor BAföG , in Northern Europe the quotas are lower, since there especially students receive financial support from the state.
Since the 1980s, research in many countries in Western Europe including the United States has observed an increase in the average retirement age, with Italy at the forefront with its particularly affectionate adult sons. While young men in the old federal states move out at an average age of 26, young women do so much earlier. However, the “moving out” as a biographical transition is not easy to define, “as it often extends over a longer period of time and it is not uncommon for someone to move back into the parental home at least temporarily after a first attempt” (“Generation boomerang”). This process is only definitely completed when you set up your own household . Mixed forms are also widespread: “Around a fifth of young adults commute between their parents' house and a second place to live, e. B. Student residence ". There is also disagreement about the age at which one can speak of a late move; "In some studies the 25th year of life is assumed, in others the 23rd year of life".
There are various reasons for moving out late: According to the 2010 German Shell study , more than 90% of young people have a good relationship with their parents and often agree with their upbringing methods. Almost three quarters of all young people would bring up their own children as they were brought up themselves. According to this, "it is only understandable" that the "Hotel Mama" is still in demand: "Almost three quarters of all young people still live with their parents - especially because it is inexpensive and comfortable." According to Klaus Hurrelmann, there is one next to the "job shortage" “Extension of training periods” added: “At a time when childhood is getting shorter and shorter, puberty often already begins at ten or eleven years”, the young people “are parked in the educational institutions”, and it therefore “always takes longer to document the step into the adult world until starting a career, moving out of the parental home and having your own children. In addition, due to the “juvenalisation of adulthood”, the necessary tension between the generations “almost disappeared”, which makes it increasingly difficult for young people to break free : “Conflicts with parents are too few, the economic situation too difficult, the» Hotel Mama “Too convenient.” In addition, marriage and starting a family would be postponed until later years. Papastefanou stated that “many nestlings are delayed in their overall development.” That would already start in adolescence, when one speaks of “adolescence delays”. Typical characteristics are a late first sexual contact , later independence and a tendency towards a younger circle of friends: "The late move is the end point of a delayed replacement." This then continued, in that they usually only move out "when they already have a partner" to go from “one family situation” to a new one.
However, sociologists also point out that many young adults do not live in the home for convenience, but simply for cost reasons. Longer training periods and sharply rising rents, especially in popular university towns, are the reasons why many young adults cannot bear the cost of living when moving out.
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