Educational game

Spanking with a paddle

Educational games represent a special form of sadomasochistic practices or erotic spanking among adults that are carried out in an understandable manner .

Mostly, adult education games are remembered or fictional scenarios from the domestic or school area, in which an active, dominant partner ( top ) takes the passive, submissive partner ( bottom ) through corporal punishment, shame or in a comparable degrading way "punished" for alleged misconduct. The erotic satisfaction for the bottom is not only achieved through the physically experienced (pleasure) pain , but for both partners often also through the humiliation associated with the treatment . Dedicated sexual activities can, but need not be part of the scope of the game. As with other actions with role-playing character for the parties to switchen , ie the partners, the rollers as a top or bottom switch . However, this will hardly ever happen in the course of the same session, and often not with the same partner in the long term. The course of the game is usually roughly agreed in advance, but also a slowword and a code word that the bottom can use to cancel the game at any time. Like all BDSM activities, this is based on strict consent (see, however, metaconsensus ).

The appointment of a slowword next to the safeword is particularly recommended for parenting games, as the special attraction of parenting games is often the fictitious begging for a reduction or remission of sentences, which could lead to misunderstandings among partners who are not yet familiar.

Legal

These (sexual) practices in Germany are generally not relevant to criminal law . The infliction of pain or injuries is regularly the offense of §§ 223ff. StGB ( bodily harm ) fulfill, but the top be justified because of the consent of the bottom. A different assessment would only come into consideration in the case of consent to be considered immoral according to Section 228 StGB in the most severe abuse, or if the consent was not obtained without a lack of will , for example because the top exploited a dependency relationship of the bottom.

practice

Parenting games are offered by many dominatrixes , sometimes also by prostitutes , but mostly practiced in private by people of all sexual orientation . The most common form of education game on a physical level is the punishment of the buttocks in a more or less intense way; the mostly used terms with a signal character are "get an ass full" or "get your ass spanked". If the many props that are suitable for this and for other parenting games cannot be found in the household anyway, they are usually available in well-stocked sex shops or on the Internet. There is also a wide range of erotic magazines specializing in this type of game , some of which also contain personals. With the spread of the Internet, online contact exchanges and corresponding chats also increasingly emerged . In the gay scene there are also clubs in some larger towns where educational games are a regular feature; there are often various potentially interesting utensils available, including a whipping rack . Occasionally there are even old wooden school desks to suggest a classroom ambience from the early 20th century and thus to offer the most "realistic" possible framework for the educational games.

In addition to the physical or material level, the social or psychological level is also an essential element of the educational games. A "means of education" can be the excitement of withholding orgasm and the associated frustration of the submissive partner ( tease and denial ). But the continued - mostly perceived as unpleasant - stimulation up to the refractory phase can express a playful power imbalance. In other scenarios, the submissive partner is “educated” to experience orgasm according to the rules of the game. This includes, for example, male ejaculation after countdown .

See also

• Flagellantism
• History of the O
• Pleasure pain
• Cane (there also further information)

Non-fiction

• Matthias TJ Grimme (Ed.): The SM manual special. Part 1 - Hamburg: Charon-Verlag, 2005

• Arne Hoffmann: Lexicon of Sadomasochism - Berlin: Schwarzkopf & Schwarzkopf, 2001