Spanking
Spanking [ spæŋkɪŋ ] ( English for knock , beat ) denotes the beating of the clad or exposing the buttocks ; In a broader sense, it also applies to neighboring parts of the body such as the thighs , the back or external genital organs . The blows are done with the flat of the hand or with an object such as a cane , whip , birch rod , carpet beater , hairbrush , paddle , martinet , tawse , ox pizzle or similar.
About the term spanking
In English, the term spanking originally and still stands for the form of corporal punishment that is regularly practiced in schools (in the USA ) and in the domestic sector in raising children . In colloquial terms, it often functions as a generic term for various types of punishment carried out on the buttocks, which in the word have a reference to the punishment instrument used, such as caning , paddling , switching or flogging .
Derived from this, spanking is also spoken of as a consensual sexual practice ("erotic spanking"). In the German-speaking world, spanking is only understood to mean the latter, while the term “corporal punishment” and numerous slang terms such as “spank” are used for chastisement in raising children.
In the 1990s, the term spanking quickly found its way into the linguistic usage of German-speaking followers of this sexual practice via Usenet and the World Wide Web . The English verb to spank is also occasionally used in German in the colloquial language of the subculture ("I want to be spanked again."), As well as other terms from the scene such as Spanko (short for spankophile or spanking fetishist ), Spanker and Spankee .
Harder forms of spanking in the field of BDSM are also known as flagellantism .
Spanking and sexuality
Playful spanking also has an erotic, sexual function in intimate situations among adult partners. Depending on the intention, planning and intensity of this activity ( petting , beatings in the context of coitus , educational game ) one can speak of a more erotic game or a BDSM variety, especially sadomasochism . Nevertheless, many perceive their passion for spanking as something independent that has little in common with classic sadomasochism.
Erotic spanking can be practiced very differently. The palette ranges from tender pats and pats to educational games to severe punishment with restraint ( bondage ). In addition, it is popular - also simultaneous and mutual - pinching ("squeezing") in the buttocks of the partner, which can also be performed in an exhibitionistic sense, for example when strolling through town .
Regardless of how erotic spanking is practiced, the principle of absolute security , reason and consensus (" Safe, Sane, Consensual ") forms the decisive basis for erotic spanking according to general consensus, since blows, like all stimuli, are not accepted and only reluctance trigger when
- the intention is not clear if, for example, the blows (slaps) occur "by accident" because someone has just bent down to pick something up,
- they are given by a person who does not like to be erotically touched,
- they are done in a way that suggests that the spanker is uncontrolled and thinks of himself rather than the hit, the spankee .
Consensuality, on the other hand, can always be assumed when the spankee bends down independently (without bondage ). The voluntary "sporty bending down" (touch toes) then guarantees the controlled, safe hitting of the spanker on the sexually relevant area of the buttocks. Beats need to be prepared so that the spankee feels the erotic character and sensual pleasure of the spanker. On the soft muscles in the area of the anus, even if they are performed with force, they are only perceived as "pleasantly pulling", not really "painful, sore" as long as the spankee wishes to be hit. Intense physical reactions (twitching and "squeaking") do not necessarily prove that the spankee is uncomfortable - as long as he voluntarily maintains his position.
The use of a safeword can also be agreed. This gives the spankee the opportunity to beg "in the role" in vain for an end to the "punishment", but to be able to stop the game in a controlled manner at any time if there is real need.
Well-known personalities with a sexual predilection for spanking (possibly also a spanking fetish) include the Swiss-French philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau (1712–1778) and the British writers Algernon Swinburne (1837–1909) and T. H. White (1906–1906–1909). 1964), the German museum founder Charlotte von Mahlsdorf (1928–2002) and the Franco-German writer Georges-Arthur Goldschmidt (* 1928) as evidenced by his autobiographical works.
Playful spanking
For example, the custom of birthday spanking is widespread in American culture . The “birthday child”, which can be a child or an adult, gets as many slaps on the bottom on his birthday as he got years old: “plus one to grow on” (plus one to keep growing). The exact sequence of birthday spanking varies from family to family; Often the jubilee gets his birthday spanking from every schoolmate, sibling or guest , so that it can ultimately become a very tangible matter.
There is a similar tradition in India called birthday bumps . The birthday child is lifted up by his wrists and ankles and then dropped (gently) on the floor with his buttocks a number of times corresponding to his age.
Punishment instruments
The objects used for spanking are and were dependent on the time period and the cultural region.
- Bamboo stock (especially in Japan )
- Birch rod (especially in Northern Europe , Central Europe and Russia until around the 19th century)
- Crops
- Rubber hose, cable
- Belts , (leather) straps
- hairbrush
- hand
- electric wire
- Whip (especially in Germany )
- Wooden spoon
- ruler
- Martinet (especially in France )
- Hippopotamus whips
- Paddle (especially in the USA )
- Whips
- spatula
- Riding crops
- Cane (especially in Europe , South Asia and Southeast Asia )
- Tawse (mainly in the UK and Ireland )
- Carpet beater
English language synonyms
In English, in addition to the word spanking for corporal punishment on the buttocks, there are also a number of slang synonyms and a number of specified terms that are derived from the instrument used:
| instrument | Verb (active) | Verb (passive) | Nounced verb ( gerund ) |
|---|---|---|---|
| paddle (paddle) | to paddle | get paddled | paddling |
| cane (cane) | to cane | get caned | caning |
| birch (birch rod) | to birch | get birched | birching |
| belt | to belt | get belted | belting |
| strap (strap) | to strap | get strapped | strapping |
| leather (strap, Tawse ) | to leather | get leathered | leathering |
| switch (whip) | to switch | get switched | switching |
| whip (whip) | to whip | get whipped | whipping |
| flogger (whip) | to flew | get flogged | flew |
If the flat hand is used, it is also called hand spanking . In Great Britain the term smacking is common for this. The terms flogging and whipping are colloquially used synonymously for spanking , without having to mean hitting with the corresponding instruments.
literature
Non-fiction
- Lady Green: The Compleat Spanker . Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 2000, ISBN 1-890159-00-X (Introduction to Erotic Spanking).
Fiction
- Andreas and Antje: Spanking - lust and passion . Marterpfahlverlag, 2001, ISBN 3-9806104-5-4 .
- Stan Gere: Punishing a Maid. 2003, ISBN 3-936708-03-7 .
- Florian Flüring: In the orbit of the moon - Confessions of a pygomaniac. ISBN 978-3-935673-19-8 .
- Lina Ganowski: My pleasant memories. ISBN 978-3-935673-22-8 .
- Henriette Staudt: The Flokati - The naked existence . Aachen 2010, ISBN 978-3-8422-3909-8 .
