Sandra Konrad

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Sandra Konrad (born around 1975 ) is a German psychologist , naturopath for psychotherapy and non-fiction author.

Life

After high school studied Konrad at the University of Hamburg next Sexualwissenschaften and German major in psychology . While still at university, she received basic training in sex therapy as well as conversation and behavioral therapy . Following her studies, she completed a three-year advanced training course as a couple and family therapist .

Konrad has been running a therapeutic practice in Hamburg since 2001 and has specialized in multi-generational family analysis and therapy.

Konrad is married.

Scientific work

In her doctoral thesis , which was published in 2007 under the title Everyone has his own Holocaust and was awarded the Joseph Carlebach Prize , Konrad dealt with the consequences of traumatization using the example of Jewish women. “Trauma,” she wrote, “that is the impossibility of narration ”. Mental wounds would not heal if it was not possible to put the unspeakable into language and thus be able to tell it.

In her research, Konrad paid particular attention to the question of how experiencing and reliving traumas suffered is passed on to subsequent generations. To do this, she examined women of three generations from Europe, Israel and the USA.

“Issues like homelessness, the damage to the feeling of security and existential fears run like a red thread through all generations and all nationalities. Especially the Jewish women living in Germany are deeply shaken in their identity right down to their grandchildren. "

- Psychosozial-Verlag (2007)

On the one hand, Konrad used detailed family portraits to trace the “transgenerational power of violence and uprooting” and, at the same time, described how the women coped with what they had experienced. Her thesis that this experience affects the offspring and influences their way of life was confirmed. For example, the desire to leave Germany was not only felt among the survivors, but also among not a few of their children and grandchildren. In addition, Konrad gave an overview of transgenerational processes of transmission and international psychological research on the Holocaust . In her review , the Austrian journalist Gudrun Hauer emphasized, among other things, the very different survival strategies of the survivors and mentioned Konrad's overview of general trauma research.

Popular science work

In addition to her scientific publications, Konrad writes popular science books.

Her book That Remains in the Family - Of Love, Loyalty and Ancient Burdens was published in 2013 . The third edition was published just a few months later. In it she described “family expectations, assignments and messages”, which everyone carries within themselves, albeit individually different in content. In the context of a so-called transgenerational transmission, there is a “psychological burden shift from one generation to the next” in the families. Regardless of whether you are loyal to your parents or not, people remain unconsciously tied to their parents as long as it is not clear whether their own life is actually being lived. In theory, she refers to representatives of various therapeutic schools in her book.

In July 2014 Konrad was a guest at ARD-alpha . The moderator, Hans-Jürgen Mende , spoke to her about her therapeutic work, her book and the question of how the step into freedom could be successful in breaking away from the parents. A year later Konrad spoke about her book in an interview with Geo Wissen magazine . In it, she distinguishes “sweet secrets” in families that serve to promote autonomy and individualization from “dark secrets” that bring suffering. They would feed themselves "out of fear, shame, feelings of guilt or even unprocessed grief". Out of loyalty, children would become allies of silence. Konrad calls loyalty a "special loyalty alliance of love, gratitude and obedience". To grow up means to break free from dependency and excessive loyalty. Keeping secrets can be very stressful and secrets of ancestors would also leave their mark. Unprocessed psychological experiences were later reflected in the lives of subsequent generations.

Konrad's book Making Love was published in 2016. It is about “myths and misunderstandings about love” and everyday relationships that often lead to a separation. Konrad devoted himself to the question of a way out of the crises. In the foreword she wrote:

“Scientific studies, observations from my therapeutic practice and field studies suggest: The reality of love relationships is not always magical, romantic and sexy. Instead, love challenges us again and again, it arouses longings and fears, fighting spirit and despair. It drives us into the wrong arms and breaks our hearts when we break up. Love comes and goes as you please. For each and every one of us, it moves between lack and magic. "

- Sandra Konrad : making love

On December 1, 2017, her book The Ruled Sex. Why she wants what he wants published. In it Konrad deals with current ascriptions of social roles , as they are approached to women and often enough accepted by them. She asks "how free, equal and sexually self-determined [...] women would be in the 21st century" and whether female sexuality has actually "emancipated or merely masculinized" in recent years. The book title sums up their central thesis. It depicts the history of female sexuality and describes old gender stereotypes that are still in effect today. In doing so, she draws on psycho-historical findings and combines them with more recent research results in sexology . Theoretical considerations are enriched with statements that Konrad was able to gain in her interviews with young women.

The television magazine Kulturzeit dealt with the topic and Konrad's book on the evening before the book was published.

“It has been 50 years since the ' sexual revolution '. But the current #MeToo debate shows how bad things are today: women are victims of sexual assault and violence. You feel used and ashamed. Has so little changed in the relationship between women and men? The psychologist Sandra Konrad describes in her new book 'The ruled gender' that old stereotypes of roles still work in bed today and explains 'why she wants what he wants'. It is also an appeal to women not to allow themselves to be patronized during sex any longer. "

- Uta Angenvoort : Culture time on November 30, 2017

A conversation with Konrad was published on the radio on the same day in the cultural program of Südwestrundfunk . Based on her book, she reported on interviews that she had done with young women and discovered that self-image and behavior did not match. The women questioned would experience themselves as self-confident, but at the same time adapt to the “wishes of the man”. That has to do with a "centuries-old tradition of adaptation". She calls for a distinction to be made between sexual freedom and sexual self-determination, because what is socially permissible does not always coincide with the question of how freedom is used. Women still shy away from setting limits and therefore repeatedly violate their own limits by engaging in something “that they don't really like”. Konrad was of the opinion that in the 21st century sexuality should no longer be "liberated" but "shaped". This also includes the recognition of borders. In this context she mentioned legal regulations that had encouraged grievances. For example, it was not until November 2016 that the law to improve the protection of sexual self-determination in the StGB made sexual harassment a criminal offense.

In an interview with Spiegel , Konrad emphasized that the balance of power in today's relationships has “become much more balanced”. In public it looks "completely different". In advertising, for example, “women are actually made into objects”.

Fonts (selection)

  • The ruled gender. Why she wants what he wants . Piper, Munich 2017, ISBN 978-3-492-05832-2 .
  • Make love. About the overwhelming of a feeling and how relationships still succeed . Piper, Munich, Berlin, Zurich 2016, ISBN 978-3-492-30888-5 .
  • That stays in the family. Of love, loyalty and ancient burdens . Piper, Munich, Zurich 2014, ISBN 978-3-492-30530-3 (first edition: 2013).
  • Everyone has their own holocaust. The Impact of the Holocaust on Three Generations of Jewish Women. An international psychological study . Psychosozial-Verlag, Giessen 2007, ISBN 978-3-89806-801-7 .

Award

Web links

Individual evidence

  1. ↑ On the person. Retrieved December 3, 2017 .
  2. ↑ Sandra Konrad. In: Psychosozial-Verlag. Retrieved December 3, 2017 .
  3. ↑ Sandra Konrad: Everyone has their own Holocaust. The Impact of the Holocaust on Three Generations of Jewish Women. An international psychological study . Psychosozial-Verlag, Giessen 2007, ISBN 978-3-89806-801-7 ( psychosozial-verlag.de [accessed on December 5, 2017] with table of contents and reviews).
  4. ^ Joseph Carlebach Prize. The winners of the last few years. 2006. University of Hamburg, accessed on December 3, 2017 : “Dr. Sandra Konrad (Department of Psychology) for her dissertation on the topic: 'Everybody has one's own Holocaust'. An international study of the effects of the Holocaust on Jewish women of three generations. "
  5. ^ A b Psychosozial-Verlag: Everyone has their own Holocaust. Retrieved December 3, 2017 .
  6. ↑ Jenny Bohse: The home, somewhere else. In: taz.de. February 21, 2007, accessed December 4, 2017 .
  7. ↑ Gudrun Hauer : Review of 'Everyone has their own Holocaust'. 2007, accessed December 3, 2017 .
  8. ↑ a b Brief and critical. S. Konrad: 'It stays in the family'. In: Deutschlandfunk Kultur . August 18, 2013, accessed December 3, 2017 .
  9. ↑ Sandra Konrad: It stays in the family. Of love, loyalty and ancient burdens. Reading sample. August 11, 2014, accessed December 3, 2017 .
  10. ↑ Hans-Jürgen Mende : In conversation with Sandra Konrad (44:12). In: ARD-alpha. July 11, 2014, accessed December 3, 2017 .
  11. ↑ a b Maria Kirady, Claus Peter Simon: The dark side of the past. Sometimes breaking the silence can be liberating. Psychologist Dr. Interview with Sandra Konrad. In: GEO WISSEN No. 56 (11/15). 2015, accessed December 4, 2017 .
  12. ↑ a b Sandra Konrad: Making love. About the overwhelming of a feeling and how relationships still succeed. Reading sample. June 1, 2016, accessed December 3, 2017 .
  13. ↑ Sandra Konrad. The ruled gender. Why she wants what he wants. Retrieved December 3, 2017 .
  14. ↑ More lust for lust: A plea against the sexual tutelage of women. (No longer available online.) Formerly in the original ; Retrieved December 3, 2017 .  ( Page no longer available , search in web archives )  Info: The link was automatically marked as defective. Please check the link according to the instructions and then remove this notice. @1@ 2Template: Toter Link / www.ardmediathek.de  
  15. ↑ The topics of the program at a glance. A plea against the sexual tutelage of women. Retrieved December 3, 2017 .
  16. ↑ a b Why she wants what he wants. Cultural talk on November 30, 2017 with the psychologist Sandra Konrad. SWR2 Kultur Info, November 30, 2017, accessed December 4, 2017 .
  17. ↑ Law amending the Criminal Code - improving the protection of sexual self-determination. In: Legislative Procedure November 4, 2016. Federal Ministry of Justice and Consumer Protection, November 10, 2016, accessed on December 6, 2017 .
  18. ↑ Changes were made on November 4, 2016, came into force on November 10, 2016 (for details of the changes, see BMJV )
  19. ↑ Tobias Becker, Claudia Voigt: Psychologist about women and sex. 'She wants what he wants'. A SPIEGEL interview. In: Der Spiegel . November 15, 2017. Retrieved December 4, 2017 .


personal data
SURNAME Konrad, Sandra
BRIEF DESCRIPTION German psychologist and non-fiction author
DATE OF BIRTH 1975