The idea of having sex with two partners at the same time is widespread and is often discussed in literature and film , for example . Sometimes the brisk threesome results from an occasional situation, such as an “exciting evening for three”, often as a one-off adventure , whereby alcohol and other drugs can help reduce inhibitions .
Couples sometimes see this as an extension of their sexual life (see also swingers ), although threesome is especially suitable for really stable partnerships. One of the two partners is often the driving force, while the other is more passive and supportive. Some couples develop a triangular relationship (Ménage à trois).
A threesome can be exercised between two men and one woman ( male-male-female or MMF for short ) or between a man and two women ( male-female-female or MFF ); both as a heterosexual variant (two men have sex with a woman, or two women with a man) and bisexual (the man has sex with a man and a woman, the woman has sex with a man and a woman, or all three have sex mutual sex with each other). As a homosexual variant, threesomes are played by three men or three women together.
A threesome includes all forms of sexual intercourse, both alternately in twos and at the same time in threes in flowing alternations. In addition, there is the desire to watch ( voyeurism ) and to be seen ( exhibitionism ), and the corresponding additional eroticization of the situation.
If two men penetrate a woman at the same time - one man vaginally , the other anally - one speaks of a double penetration , colloquially also sandwich or double decker . Double penetration is also possible if two men penetrate the vagina at the same time or, more rarely, and often only with prior practice, penetrate the anus of a woman or a man at the same time . Another variant is the penetration of two men at the same time in the pubic region and in the mouth of a woman or a man.
The fantasy of having sex with two partners at the same time is dealt with in many literary works , for example in the novel Nachtfalken by Andreas Kurz and in the debut novel Romāniņš by the Latvian author and sex columnist Dace Rukšāne , which led to a literary scandal in Latvia; as well as in audio books such as Angelica Allure's triangular relationships .
Painting by Édouard-Henri Avril : A woman with two men
Painting by Peter Fendi : A man with two women
Representation in the Kama Sutra : a man with two women
Some artists have repeatedly addressed the brisk threesome in their pictures, such as Daniel Richter , of whom several works with such names are shown in the book Daniel Richter - Hirn . In 2001 the Berlin band Stereo Total released a commercially very successful single "Liebe zu threes ".
More uses of the word
The term threesome is always popular when three people get together and have fun together. A German television series broadcast from 1996 to 2000, in which three students set up a shared apartment in the parents' apartment of one of them, was called " Ein flotter Dreier " . The RTL erotic advisory program with Erika Berger , which began under the title A Chance for Love , was temporarily called a threesome between 1991 and 1992 . The Austrian cabaret troupe Die Männer , which consists of three men, called their third program Threesome in 2006 .
But it is also used in completely different constellations: Joachim Mischke referred to the organizationally difficult premieres of all three operas ( Le nozze di Figaro , Don Giovanni , Così fan tutte ), for which Lorenzo da Ponte the libretto and Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart the music wrote as Threesomes. The Warsteiner company presented its standard beer with a reduced-alcohol light beer and an alcohol-free fresh beer on a poster and once titled it with Threesome and the other time with each one . Another company sold a wooden box with three different fires , calling them Mohr-Sederl Threesome . The term is sometimes used in marketing when e.g. B. Bakeries sell three pieces of cake at a special price (volume discount).
- Shere Hite: Hite Report. The woman's sexual experience . Bertelsmann Verl., Munich 1989, ISBN 3-570-02170-X . (German translation; English original title: The Hite-report )
- Shere Hite: Hite Report. The man's sexual experience . Bertelsmann Verl., Munich 1989, ISBN 3-570-06471-9 . (German translation; English original title: The Hite report on male sexuality )
- Hans Jellouschek: The role of the beloved in the love triangle . 10th edition, 2nd edition of the new edition, Kreuz-Verl., Zurich et al. 1999, ISBN 3-268-00183-1 .
- Stephan Dressler, Christoph Zink: Pschyrembel Dictionary Sexuality . Gruyter, Berlin et al. 2003, ISBN 3-11-016965-7 .
- Shere Hite: Hite Report. The sexual experience of women , Munich, 1989.
- Arne Hoffmann: Adventure for three . In: GQ-Magazin.de, accessed on April 26, 2014.
- Andreas Kurz: Nachtfalken . Roman, Eichborn Verl., Frankfurt am Main 2007, ISBN 978-3-8218-5817-3 .
- Andreas Dietrich : Heart's content. In: NZZ Folio . 04/2004. Note: The book Romāniņš (Romanins) (dt. Kleine Romance ) was published in 2002 in Latvian by Atēna-Verlag, Riga / Latvia (→ ISBN 9984-635-88-0 ) and has not yet been translated into German in front.
Angelica Allure: Triangles. Part 1., threesome sex. Erotic stories and sexy texts from triosex with two women and a man . Flexible Literature, Darmstadt 2004, ISBN 3-937825-00-2 . (Audio book; 1 CD);
and: Angelica Allure: love triangles. Part 2., trio sex. Erotic stories, experiences and sexy dreams about sex with two men and one woman . Flexible Literature, Darmstadt 2004, ISBN 3-937825-01-0 . (Audio book; 1 CD).
- Daniel Richter, Alexander Tolnay: Daniel Richter - brain . Hatje Cantz Verl., Ostfildern 2003, ISBN 978-3-7757-1349-8 , pp. 67-69. (Text in German and English).
- Lyrics for love for three by Stereo Total . Retrieved June 10, 2013.
- Artists of the Ybbsiade 2007 - The Men - Max Mayerhofer ( Memento from September 20, 2007 in the Internet Archive ), ybbsiade.at, 2007.
- Joachim Mischke: Ein flotter Dreier , Hamburger Abendblatt, November 22, 2006.
- Daniela Arens: Function and Shape of Advertising , 2001, ISBN 3-8311-2184-2 , p. 258.
- Threesome topless: The BMW M3 Cabriolet , heise Autos, Fahrberichte, July 18, 2003.