Erotic lactation
Erotic lactation ( Engl. Erotic lactation ) refers to the breastfeeding or an adult partner a relactation primarily of erotic reasons. Depending on the type and orientation of the erotic relationship, other, especially English terms are also used, such as B. adult nursing , adult breastfeeding or Adult Nursing Relationship (ANR) .
The also occurring Word formations dairy fetishism and Laktophilie are colloquial pseudo-technical terms that do not conform to the rules of word formation for paraphilias in medical diagnostic context. In particular, for the existence of paraphilia according to the definitions of the ICD-10 and the DSM-IV, a level of suffering must result from the sexual inclination concerned. In addition, the word fetish is not used in the medical diagnostic context for primary or secondary sexual characteristics and usually refers to inanimate objects.
Lactation, Relactation and Induced Lactation
Erotic lactation can develop out of a child's normal breastfeeding, and milk flow is maintained through continuous stimulation.
The cause of spontaneous milk flow ( galactorrhea ) is not infrequently a stimulation of the nipples , and it is possible to induce the milk flow in a targeted manner only by mechanical stimulation of the nipples ( induced lactation ).
The milk flow can also be induced in a targeted manner and independently of pregnancy or reproductive ability. This is called induced lactation, while the word relactation is used in a woman who resumes the flow of milk after a pause in breastfeeding . This can be done by regularly sucking on the nipples several times a day. In addition or instead of this, you can also pump, massage and “milk out”. In addition, a supportive drug is often taken temporarily, the best known being the dopamine antagonist domperidone . A lactogenic effect of herbal remedies could not be clinically proven, although numerous remedies have long been recommended as "milk-promoting". The milk flow is maintained as long as the breast is stimulated regularly.
distribution
In lesbian relationships, mutual or one-sided breastfeeding was mentioned in the specialist literature around 1930, but exact numbers are not known. The London magazine The Sunday Times reported on March 13, 2005 that a scientific study of 1,690 British men found that in 25 to 33% of couples, the man had drunk the breast milk from his breastfeeding wife. Most did this multiple times, citing the reason not curiosity, but a real emotional need. A detailed scientific report was published in 2007 by Roland Schöbl. In October 2007, a study on breastfeeding of the adult partner was published in Germany. Of the 8,500 people surveyed, around 70 percent of men, almost 60 percent of heterosexual women and almost 80 percent of lesbians said they would like to drink their partner's milk or let him drink. In addition, there are almost no reports or studies of adult breastfeeding for erotic reasons.
Sensations when breastfeeding a child, whether sexual or asexually pleasant, do not normally fall under the term erotic lactation , as long as the breastfeeding is not aimed at increasing one's own pleasure. Depending on the study, between 25% and 40% of women state that they have been sexually aroused by breastfeeding a child. Whether such feelings are experienced depends on many factors, in particular cultural norms. In terms of development, pleasant sensations arise in order to motivate a certain behavior.
Types of erotic lactation
- Milk Games: Any kind of sexual activity that involves a woman's milk. Very widespread in the period immediately after giving birth, as sexual arousal during this time triggers the milk ejection reflex in many women .
- Adult Nursing Relationship (ANR): German: "Adult breastfeeding relationship". Sucking milk from the breast as an expression of strong intimacy and mutual tenderness, whereby the relationship between the two partners is of equal importance (e.g. no infantilism ). Adult breastfeeding relationships are based on a stable long-term relationship, since otherwise it is hardly possible to maintain the flow of milk. On the other hand, it is very often reported that breastfeeding has a strong binding and stabilizing influence on the partnership. While breastfeeding, the woman can You may experience an orgasm or a pleasant milk ejection reflex , but both do not always have to be the case and are not the goal of breastfeeding. Most couples report that their reason for adult breastfeeding relationships is more for intense intimacy and mutual bonding.
- Pumping: Some women express or pass milk for sensual reasons, regardless of whether or not they have a partner. In addition to the sensual feelings, many women cite the reason that they feel very feminine as breastfeeding women. It happens both that women maintain their own milk production for a long time after weaning a child, and that women specifically induce milk production.
- There are also at least three BDSM variants of erotic lactation:
- Infantilism / ageplay : In a role play, the partner takes on the role of a baby who is cared for and breastfed by the breastfeeding woman. In this variant, breastfeeding has a secondary character.
- Breastfeeding as a reward or substitute: Breastfeeding a submissive (BDSM) partner can serve as a reward for his submission or as a surrogate for unauthorized (other) sexual acts e.g. B. in a cuckold relationship.
- Milking: The "milking" (also "forced lactation") of the submissive woman or the instruction to her to give milk for her dominant partner. This variant is also possible as a pet play .
- The occurrence of a BDSM variety does not rule out other variants, such as Conversely, for example, “milking” can also be a game for normal (non-BDSM) couples.
- Breastfeeding a child: Sensual to sexual sensations when breastfeeding a child occur frequently, but should only be included in erotic lactation if breastfeeding is primarily for personal pleasure.
Cultural and historical aspects
Daoism
Before Confucianism emerged , various alchemical sexual practices were taught in Chinese Daoism , which saw the human sexual act as an opportunity to gain strength, old age or even immortality through the "energy exchange" of the two sexes or through one-sided "energy consumption" of the man . In order to strengthen his yang , the man should drink yin essences under the tongue and from the woman's breasts during lovemaking and also ingest them with the penis from the woman's vagina, which should have a strengthening effect on his own energy. If an energy exchange (cycle) was the goal of the teaching in question, then the man should give the woman his energy back through his semen. Mostly, however, the requirements went beyond the exchange of energy and the one-sided accumulation of energy by the man came to the fore. The Daoist adept in question therefore had to avoid ejaculation in order to preserve all of his Qì ("life energy") in the body. The instructions on such sexual practices had the character of a secret doctrine. The energy that was supposed to be sucked out of the breasts had names like “coral essence”, “white snow” or “juice of the apple of immortality”. In China, Vietnam, Korea and Japan, the belief in the special effects of breast milk on adults, and especially when it is drunk straight from the breast, has still not completely disappeared.
Caritas Romana
The writings Factorum ac dictorum memorabilium libri , which were written about 30 AD under Tiberius (14-37 AD), include the story of the "Caritas Romana" (Roman Caritas) in two different versions from the Roman author Valerius Maximus Contains versions. The story is about a parent who is about to starve to death in prison. In the first version of Valerius Maximus it is the mother, in the second version it is the father. Only the young daughter is allowed entry after she has been thoroughly searched for food. But the daughter, who had just given birth, gives mother / father her own breast to drink and thus saves him / her from starving. When this finally became known, the praetor, impressed by this act, pardoned the parent and later a temple was built for the daughter where earlier (supposedly) the prison had stood.
The story itself is probably much older, in any case it existed in several versions in antiquity, in which several names were used: Cimon (Cimo, Kimon) and Pero (Peres, Pera), Xanthippe and Mycon and later in Greece Tectaphus and Eerie. The story must have been well known by then; in Pompeii alone (buried in AD 79) three pictorial representations of this story have already been found. The actual origin of this story is unknown, some authors suspect it to be in Greece, others in the Orient as far as India or China.
In modern European times, the story was taken up again by Boccaccio in his work De claris mulieribus (Of the most famous women) in 1362. As a result, hundreds of paintings were created that depict this story, three of them by Rubens alone , plus countless sculptures and modified narratives, such as throat-loosening puzzles or local legends. In church sermons of the 17th century, the topic was taken up again and again, whereby in this case the mother-daughter version was chosen almost consistently, while in the pictorial representation almost only the father-daughter version exists. In the first case, it is assumed that erotic references should be avoided in favor of charitable ones, while the erotic component plays a not inconsiderable role in the visual representation.
Several representations of the subject are known from Roman antiquity; During the excavations in Pompeii , at least three corresponding images were found. A renewed take up and publication of the story by Giovanni Boccaccio around the year 1362 led to the numerous newer representations of the scene mentioned, which continue to this day. At the end of the 20th century, the novel The Fruits of Wrath by John Steinbeck , in which the daughter of the family breasts a starving man in the final scene, became well known. For many artists, the real attraction of the pictorial representation is likely to be the tension between the purely charitable representation and the eroticism of the scene. What predominates can be determined quite well in the image analysis using many individual features, such as eye contact, extensive body contact, hand position, vital representation of the man, amount and type of uncovered body parts, observers present and much more.
Christianity
In the Middle Ages there were reports of visions in which the Virgin Mary offered a saint the breast to drink. One of the most famous examples of this is the Lactatio of Saint Bernard of Clairvaux . A number of pictorial representations were created for this, for example an altarpiece by Gottfried Bernhard Göz from 1749. The best-known saints who also reported such a vision were Bishop Fulbert of Chartres , Alanus de Rupe , Domingo de Guzmán , but also women like Adelheid von Frauenberg and Mechthild von Magdeburg dealt with this topic or had their own Lactatio visions. Conversely, there were also legends of women who gave milk even in a religious context. It was reported by Catharina of Genoa (1447–1510) that out of devotion to the divine lamb she took an earthly lamb to bed, kissed it, let it suckle her breasts and is said to have given a few drops of milk as a result. Another example is Elena Duglioli, who gave milk as a maid around 1510–1520 and, according to reports, gave the papal nuncio the breast so that they would lose their sexual pleasure. And finally, Margareta Ebner should be mentioned in this context , who, according to her own reports, got milk after a small Jesus statue asked her to suckle him. The legends range from relatively factual descriptions to clearly erotic chants. So Adelheid von Frauenberg wrote of the Virgin Mary: “We want to fill you in Begird and we will drink you with the milk with which I suck the baby hailig baby, - and gave me a tender breast in my mouth; and when this unspeakable sweetness was withdrawn from me, I was so great that I was so almost wainen. " Alan de Rouche wrote about himself in the third person: " Then she kissed him and handed him the virgin breasts from which he was greedily drank, so that he felt himself strengthened through all his limbs and lifted up into the heavens. And often from then on the Blessed Virgin showed him the same grace and always strengthened him anew, so that he was also able to inspire other Marian worshipers for the Psalter. « The so-called Lactatio legends were in numerous pious texts with more or processed less erotic connotation. Another example is a calendar saying from the 19th century, which probably refers to Fulbert von Chartres: “A sick priest was new there / he makes a daily bed next to the Horis Canonicis / also Mariae siben daytime / eyferig. He was given up by doctors for dead / and abandoned / and sihe / the glorious Queen of Heaven stands by the Beth / sprays him in his mouth / O honey-sweet milk / out of her virgin breasts: stand up / says she / rallies with the canons / and forget Never in the times of my day the days of your life. « At the beginning of the 20th century, Karl Vollmoeller processed several lactatio legends ostensibly pious but clearly erotic in his book" Seven Miracles of the Blessed Virgin Mary ".
Islam
In the Islamic understanding of law , breastfeeding can create a relationship. Almost all modern law schools assume that this only applies to children up to the age of two, and a number of other conditions must also be met. In traditional folk beliefs and among some outsiders in the large schools of law, there is also the idea that the drinking of breast milk by an (adult) man leads to a ban on marriage with the woman concerned. This goes as far as claims that e.g. B. a single drop of breast milk accidentally drunk would invalidate an existing marriage.
There are also publicly highly emotional controversies about whether breastfeeding an unfamiliar adult man removes the obligation to veil and the prohibition of contact between him and the woman in question - without this at the same time resulting in a ban on marriage.
The happy marriage of Carl Buttenstedt
Around 1903 Carl Buttenstedt published a book under the title Die Glücksehe - The Revelation in Woman, a study of nature . In this book Buttenstedt described a method of contraception in which the man should drink the milk from his wife's breast every day in order to stop the period. A number of authors attested that Buttenstedt had a not inconsiderable number of followers, and the content of the letters to the editor of Buttenstedt's book shows that readers were far more interested in contraception and the pleasure of breastfeeding than in the crude theory that Buttenstedt had constructed around his happy marriage . Buttenstedts Glücksehe became well known for a short time as a quirkiness and there were at least three authors who published follow-up books. In addition to drinking directly from the breast, further developments included the use of a breast pump, daily special breast massages and hypnosis techniques. Buttenstedt's book "Glücks-Ehe" was banned in 1938 in all editions. Buttenstedt was completely forgotten during the time of National Socialism .
Web links
- stillbehaben.org German info page
literature
- Carl Buttenstedt : The happy marriage, the revelation in women, a study of nature . 6th, improved edition, Reform Verlag, Berlin-Schöneberg 1910 ( full text online PDF, free of charge, 193 pages, 6.1 MB); 8th,. improved edition with an introduction by the author, Verlag der Schönheit, RA Giesecke, Dresden 1923, OCLC 72033363
- Max Pfister: On the reflective relationships between Mammae and Genitalia muliebria , A. Georgi, Berlin 1902, OCLC 459456586 (Dissertation University of Heidelberg 1902, 29 pages [ Les reports réflexes entre les mamelles et les parties génitales chez la femme ]).
- Roland Schöbl: Erotic lactation: breastfeeding of the adult partner and milk production for erotic reasons. Denkholz-Buchmanufaktur, Berlin 2007, ISBN 978-3-9811894-1-4 .
- Jutta Sperling, Roman Charity: Queer Lactations in Early Modern Visual Cultur e (transcript Verlag, Bielefeld; 2016 / Columbia University Press , New York, 2016). Open source .
Individual evidence
- ↑ Roland Schöbl: Erotic Lactation, Denkholz 2007, ISBN 978-3-9811894-1-4
- ^ Roy J. Levin: The breast / nipple / areola complex and human sexuality . In: Sexual & Relationship Therapy , May 2006, Issue 21, pp. 237-249
- ↑ The Academy Of Breastfeeding Medicine: ABM Protocol # 9: Use of galactogogues in initiating or augmenting maternal milk supply. Copy available online as PDF .
- ↑ Da Silva, Orlando P. and Knoppert, David C .: Health and drug alerts: Domperidone for lactating women, Canadian Medical Association Newsletter SEPT. 28, 2004. Copy available as PDF
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- ^ Fiona Giles: Fresh Milk - The Secret Life of Breasts, NY: Simon and Schuster; Sydney: Allen and Unwin, 2003
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- ^ Henri Maspero : Les Procédés de 'Nourir le Principe Vitale' dans la Religion Taoiste Ancienne , in Journal Asiatique 229, 1937, 177-252, 353-430.
- ^ Douglas Wile: Art of the Bedchamber: The Chinese Sexual Yoga Classics Including Women's Solo Meditation Texts, SUNY Press, 1992
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- ↑ Valerius Maximus : Facta et dicta memorabilia, chapter: 5.4 De pietate in parentes .; English translation: Valerius Maximus, Memorable Doings and Sayings, ed. By DR Shackleton Bailey (Harvard University Press, 2000), vol. 1, book v, no. 4, pp. 501-503
- ^ Jutta Sperling: Roman Charity: Queer Lactations in Early Modern Visual Culture . transcript Verlag, Bielefeld 2016.
- ↑ Mary Beagon: The Elder Pliny on the Human Animal: Natural History Book 7 , Oxford University Press, 2005, p 314, ISBN 0-19-927701-X
- ^ Giovanni Boccaccio : De claris mulieribus, chapter: LXV. De romana iuvencula; English translation: Giovanni Boccaccio , Famous Women. Edited and translated by Virginia Brown. The I Tatti Renaissance Library. Cambridge, MA, and London, England: Harvard University Press, 2001
- ↑ Andor Pigler had around 230 pictorial representations by the end of the 18th century. Source: Andor Pigler: Baroque themes. A selection of directories on iconography of the 17th and 18th centuries. Vol. II, Budapest 1974
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- ↑ Pompeii : (1) “Gruppi figurati con perona e avicane” in the Pompeii Museum in Naples, (2) mural in the house of Marcus Lucretius Fronto, (3) mural “Micon e Pero” in the Museo Nazionale Romano - Palazzo Massimo, exhibition “ Rosso Pompeiano "
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- ^ According to Heinrich Günter: Legenden-Studien, JP Bachem 1906, page 165
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- ↑ "Our dear women's calendar" (without author, without year). Owned by the Wilhelm Busch Society. Wilhelm Busch crossed the lines quoted in the calendar when he was researching his story of "Saint Anthony of Padua".
- ↑ Karl Vollmoeller: Seven miracles of the Holy Virgin Mary. Grethlein & Co , Leipzig 1928. The book "Eight Miracles of the Holy Virgin Mary" was also published as a private print in a small edition, which contained an additional story that no publisher dared to publish despite Vollmoeller's fame at the time.
- ↑ Al-Buckhari - Hadith 3425. Sahih Muslim, Book 8, 3424, 3425, 3427, 3428. Imam Malik's Muwatta, Book 30, 1/30/8, 2/30/12-14, etc.
- ↑ Roland Schöbl: Breast milk as a pious way out. Scandal over a fatwa in Egypt: A woman is only allowed to share the office with a male colleague if she has given him her breast beforehand. »Taz« from December 3, 2007. Article is available online.
- ↑ Institute for Islamic Issues (Evangelical Alliance) on May 29, 2007: Legal opinion causes unrest in Egypt ( Memento of the original of August 22, 2012 in the Internet Archive ) Info: The archive link was automatically inserted and not yet checked. Please check the original and archive link according to the instructions and then remove this notice.
- ↑ www.islam-qa.com → Fatwa 47721 “Is it permissible for a man to suck on his wife's breasts during intercourse?”
- ↑ Roland Schöbl: The "happiness marriage" of Carl Buttenstedt. Breastfeeding the husband as a secret doctrine around 1900. In: Sexuologie 3–4 / 2007, pp. 117–123. Ed. Academy for Sexual Medicine and the Society for Practical Sexual Medicine, Elsevier Verlag. (detailed overview) Available as PDF at www.archive.org .
- ^ Carl Buttenstedt: Die Glücksehe: The revelation in the woman - a study of nature. Available as a PDF at www.archive.org .
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- ^ List of banned authors during the National Socialist era , as of December 31, 1938
