Love triangle
A triangular relationship , three-way relationship , triad , marriage for three or ménage à trois ( French : three-way relationship ) is a non- monogamous love relationship , partnership or sexual relationship in which three people are involved. A person can have two separate individual relationships ("V constellation"); In the stricter linguistic usage, triangular relationship denotes a relationship in which all three people have relationships with one another (just as in a triangle every corner is connected to every other corner). The triangular relationship as a form of polyamory is to be distinguished from the flottem Dreier , which describes the sexual practice between three people.
Motifs for triangular relationships
Gender, age and family closeness do not rule out triangular relationships. With regard to an existing couple relationship, triangular relationships are either lauded as enrichment or scourged as infidelity, betrayal and crime ( sin ). They can come about through consultation with the partners (tolerance model) or even trigger the use of violence due to possessive jealousy (exclusivity model). The imperfection of a couple relationship is often seen as the cause of triangular relationships. Relationships between couples are based on desires for security, protection, intimacy, confidentiality and a quiet perspective on life and, depending on the autonomy and maturity of the partner, contain at the same time a tendency towards exclusivity, isolation, the destruction of existing friendships, sterility and monotony (prison for two). Love triangles are sometimes seen as a way out or a corrective to a couple relationship.
The subjective triggers and motives for entering into a triangular relationship are partly obvious, others are carefully hidden or consistently denied. It is not uncommon for the motives to be unaware and can only be assumed from the relationship context.
Triangular relationships can relieve one's own sexual tension, satisfy needs for amicably colored eroticism, act out sexual specialties, fulfill an animating function, discipline and / or humiliate the main partner or be an instrument of self-assertion.
The person with two relationships can secretly lead one or both relationships ( fling ) or live out both relationships openly, as in an open relationship .
Origin of the term
In Ibsen's play Hedda Gabler the term "triangular relationship" can be found.
In his comments on Hogarth's copperplate engravings , Lichtenberg wrote in 1799 of a "happiness triangle". He refers to an older Italian phrase: "Triangolo equilaterato in Italy means the domestic system of happiness made up of man, woman and Amant."
Triangular relationships in art
see also : Polyamorous relationships in plays, films and songs
Films (selection)
- Marc Allégret : The Ball des Comte d'Orgel, based on the novel of the same name by Raymond Radiguet (1970)
- Woody Allen : Vicky Cristina Barcelona (2008)
- Bertrand Blier : The Savvy (1974)
- Robert Bresson : The Ladies of the Bois de Boulogne (1945)
- Terence Davies : The Deep Blue Sea (2011)
- Andrew Fleming : Lonely Zweisam Dreisam (1994)
- Dominik Graf : The Beloved Sisters (2014)
- Ernst Lubitsch : Serenade for three (1933)
- Angela Robinson : Professor Marston & The Wonder Women (2017)
- Nicolas Roeg & Donald Cammel: Performance (1970)
- Salvador García Ruiz : Castles in the Air (Castillos de Cartón) (2009)
- Rolf Schübel : A song of love and death - Gloomy Sunday (1999), based on the novel Song of Sad Sunday by Nick Barkow
- François Truffaut : Jules and Jim (1962)
- Tom Tykwer : Three (2010)
- Xavier Villaverde : The Sex of Angels (2011)
- Andrzej Żuławski : The Loyalty of Women (2000)
literature
The love triangle motif is a widespread theme in literary history, from world literature in its early days to contemporary trivial literature . An early and well-known example is the story of Abraham , Sarah and Hagar from Genesis of the Old Testament . Also in the Bible is the story of David , Bathsheba and their husband Urijah , which ends fatally for him. The David / Bathsheba story was mainly depicted in Western art from the Middle Ages to the Baroque, but it was also received occasionally in contemporary literature, for example by Leonard Cohen in his song Hallelujah , of which a number of cover versions were produced. Another example of love triangles in literature, the first novel by Simone de Beauvoir called you came and stayed represents - his action is based on a ménage à trois, which led the author at that time itself.
- Marie-Madeleine de La Fayette : The Princess of Clèves . Paris 1678. Several German translations and editions.
- Milan Kundera : The unbearable lightness of being . Fischer Taschenbuchverlag, 1987, ISBN 3-596-25992-4 .
- Ernest Hemingway : The Garden of Eden . 4th edition. Rowohlt Tb., 2003, ISBN 978-3-499-22606-9 .
- Do you fall in love often, rarely get engaged, never get married? The longing for romantic love . Droemer Knaur , Munich 2005, ISBN 3-426-27368-3 ( Knaur Taschenbuch 77923 , Munich 2007, ISBN 3-426-77923-4 ).
- Simon Gray : Japes . Nick Hern Books, 2000, ISBN 978-1-85459-470-9 (drama).
music
- David Crosby : Triad (first recorded in 1967 with his band The Byrds ; first released in 1968 in the version by Jefferson Airplane ; live version in 1971 by Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young on the album 4 Way Street )
See also
literature
- Unda Hörner: A love for three. Nine portraits. Berlin: edition ebersbach, 2009.
- Hans Jellouschek : The role of the beloved in the love triangle . 4th edition. Kreuz-Verlag, Stuttgart, 1999, ISBN 978-3-268-00183-5 .
- Andreas Köhnemann: love in all directions. Sexually ambivalent triangular relationships in the film. Mühlbeyer Filmbuchverlag, Frankenthal 2014. ISBN 978-3-945378-02-1 .
Web links
Individual evidence
- ↑ Mim Chapman: What Does Polyamory Look Like ?: Polydiverse Patterns of Loving and Living in Modern Polyamorous Relationships . iUniverse, 2010, pp. 59 .
- ↑ Quotation in: Ibsen: Hedda Gabler, Edition Frankfurt a. M. 1907; Act II, Brack to Hedda: "[...] such a, shall we say, triangular relationship - that is basically a great convenience for all parts".
- ^ W. Hogarth's drawings, engraved in steel based on the originals. With the full explanation of the same from GC Lichtenberg. Abth. 1. Vol 2. Stuttgart 1840. p. 523.
- ↑ Gen 16,10-11 EU / Gen 21 EU
- ↑ 2 Sam 11 EU
- ↑ George G. Nicol: David, Abigail and Bathsheba, Nabal and Uriah . Transformations Within a Triangle. In: Scandinavian Journal of the Old Testament. 1998. 12, pp. 130-145
- ↑ Julia Korbik: Literature quick check: She came and stayed (1943). In: Oh, Simone! January 14, 2016, accessed on July 3, 2020 (German).