Flower sex

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Blümchensex , sometimes daisy sex , is a term from everyday German for a gentle sexuality that is oriented towards tenderness and cuddling , which can include both petting and sexual intercourse . The focus is on romance , without special experiments. This is often referred to as cuddle sex . Sometimes flower sex is used disparagingly , for example in personals there are corresponding phrases. Some people also try to use it specifically as a swear word . Opposing concepts to vanilla sex is about sex games , role playing , hardcore sex or BDSM .

In the BDSM scene, flower sex is sometimes used to mean the same thing as vanilla sex, which means "non-BDSM sex" (sex without extras). Lesbian BDSM internal use Kuschelsex as a battle cry in the clashes with radical feminists , the aggression and violent sexuality as a model propagate (see Feminist Sex Wars ). In the lesbian scene there are SM- lesbians and, on the contrary, the vanilla -lesbians or Germanized "flower lesbians".

Word origin

Martin Goldstein alias Dr. Sommer explained in the Bravo : “ Flower sex is often done by young and inexperienced couples. What is meant is a careful, inquiring and tender lovemaking, mostly without sexual intercourse. ”One possible origin of the word is that flowers usually embody something sweet, cute and playful - just what happens during flower sex. Another possibility is the derivation of the flower coffee , a very thin coffee through which you can see the flowers on the bottom of the porcelain cup.

Sometimes the headlines describe the pollination process of flowers by honey bees as flower sex . The name could have been based on a backward sexual education based on this picture , which describes the sexual act in a belittling way as the union of bees and flowers.

In his History of Sexology, Volkmar Sigusch describes the ultimate ideal described by Ernest Bornemann and Wilhelm Reich , from which everything only vaguely same-sex has been displaced, as coitus germanicus simplex . For Christoph Winder from Der Standard , this means a "heterosexual forest and meadow sleep of the simplest style".

distribution

Beginning in 2020 resulted in a GfK - survey of 1,000 members of the dating portal LoveScout24 that 37% of men 'rather tender sex "want (women: 30%), compared to 11% for" more harder Sex "(women: 14%). The fact that caressing is part of sex received the most approval: 56% of men and 47% of women. Kissing during sex was the second most important desire: 48% in men, 46% in women. Tender foreplay was part of sex for 43% of men, but only 36% of women found it important. 50% of all men agreed with the statement: “I like to enjoy and also consciously respond to my partner”, compared to only 39% of women. While only 18% of the young generation between the ages of 18 and 29 were in favor of tender sex, it was 40% for the generation over 40. 38% of men found a "quick act" without foreplay ( quickie ) as satisfactory, but only 25 % the women; 40% of the generation in their 30s enjoyed it.

In mid-2015, an evaluation of the preferences of the 3.8 million German users of the dating portal C-date showed that Berliners were primarily looking for cuddly sex , while Hamburgers wanted exhibitionism and voyeurism , North Rhine-Westphalia preferred sex toys , Hesse was interested in role-playing games and Bavaria was interested in whipping stood.

Artistic implementations

The comedian Holger Müller , alias “Ausbilder Schmidt”, called his second CD Blümchensex in 2005  - but in contrast to the actual meaning of the word, it is depicted with a cactus on the cover . In the song Blümchensex by the rock band Killerpilze from 2006, a man says that his conquest is into blümchensex; he says this is not a problem for him, but one should finally start. In one stanza she then pulls out a leather whip and he quickly escapes.

See also

Web links

Wiktionary: Blümchensex  - explanations of meanings, word origins, synonyms, translations

Individual evidence

  1. ↑ Claudia Wrumnig: Kuschelsex - Romantic hours for two. In: EnjoyLiving.at. December 10, 2012, accessed May 4, 2020.
  2. ^ Sigrid Neudecker: Sex & the Sigrid: Blümchensex. A swear word? In: City: City newspaper for Vienna. No. 22, 2008, p. 63 ( PDF: 541 kB on monopol.at ( Memento from February 19, 2009 in the Internet Archive )).
  3. ↑ Data entry : Appendix 1: Naming conventions and definition of terms. ( Memento from October 31, 2018 in the Internet Archive ) In: The paper tiger: Encyclopedia of Sadomasochism. February 26, 2003, accessed May 4, 2020.
  4. ↑ Datenschlag : Kuschelsex ( Memento from January 18, 2017 in the Internet Archive ) In: The paper tiger: Encyclopedia of Sadomasochism. August 23, 2002, accessed May 4, 2020; Quote: "Flower sex is sometimes used in a similar way , which can also be used as a synonym for vanilla without any judgment ."
  5. ↑ Volker Wolkersdorff: Feed my demons. In: Ute Frietsch, Konstanze Hanitzsch, Jennifer John, Beatrice Michaelis (eds.): Gender as taboo. Places, dynamics and functions of de / thematization of gender (=  GenderCodes. Volume 5). Transcript, Bielefeld 2007, ISBN 3-89942-713-0 , p. 103: footnote 9.
  6. ↑ Dr. Sommer : Qick-Klick: Where does the term flower sex come from? ( Memento from February 16, 2009 in the Internet Archive ) In: Bravo.de . Retrieved May 4, 2020.
  7. ^ For example Paul Siefert: Group sex, castration and abstinence: From bees and flowers. In: Uro-News. Volume 62, No. 12, December 2018 (Institute for Apiculture, Frankfurt; doi: 10.1007 / s00092-018-2103-z ; online at springer.com ); Quote: "Funny - we actually associate bees with flower meadows, sunshine and flower sex."
  8. ↑ Oliver Pfohlmann: Science of hugs. In: DerStandard.at . October 4, 2008, accessed May 4, 2020; Teaser: "How to classify lusts and delights: The sex researcher Volkmar Sigusch has written a weighty history of his subject".
  9. ^ Christoph Winder: Coitus germanicus simplex. ( Memento from February 16, 2009 in the Internet Archive ) In: DerStandard.at. August 26, 2008, accessed on May 4, 2020 (from Winder's dictionary on the present ).
  10. ↑ Message: Because of men tough and women tender ... According to the survey: Men are more on flower sex than women. In: RTL.de . February 5, 2020, accessed May 4, 2020.
  11. ↑ Antonia Hagedorn: Representative survey: Germans are in bed on it. In: FitforFun.de . February 3, 2020, accessed on May 10, 2020 (further results of the GfK survey).
  12. ↑ Message: Sex survey: Berliners want cuddly sex, Bavaria are into whipping. In: BZ-Berlin.de . June 3, 2015, accessed May 4, 2020.
  13. ↑ Holger Müller: Blümchensex on Spotify , accessed on May 4, 2020.
  14. ↑ Video at azzaroify: Killerpilze - Blümchensex on YouTube, April 27, 2011, accessed on May 4, 2020 (2:49 minutes; from the 2006 album Invasion der Killerpilze ).